My life has been turned upside down as I’ve had to admit that sometimes the best way to help someone who is mentally ill is to stop helping them. Today my Centrelink claim has been finalised and I have come face to face with the fact that for the first time in my life I am completely responsible for my life. Admittedly, over the last 24 years I have practically been responsible for pretty much everything, but there has always been another adult in the house that I could pretend had something to do with any decisions that had to be made. As I face life alone I am nervous but excited by the challenge. I find it interesting that after two weeks of not being responsible for my husband I am looking much less tired even though I have had the flu for the last 10 days.