Jesus said: “And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me”. (Mat 25:40 KJV)
\nOver the last few months I’ve come to realise that this verse is not just talking about serving Jesus through serving others it is also about hurting Jesus by hurting others. I’ve come to realise that over years my husband has been hitting and screaming at and scaring Jesus in the persons of our children. And I’ve had to accept that, although not consenting to this, I stood by and allowed it to happen. Oh sure, I tried to defuse the situations and remonstrated with him but I stayed and tacitly consented to his actions. I made excuses, I said that at least he’s not as bad as his parents, I said at least he only hits them on the bottom. I rationalised that since he was a good friend and a good son-in-law that he was a good person. I didn’t tell the whole story. Now, don’t get me wrong, he is a good friend. I’ve seen him put friends ahead of his own safety. Twelve years ago he was attacked in a random stabbing and he insisted on making sure that our friend who was with him was safe before he would let me drive him to the hospital. The police later told us that when they attended the scene they were expecting to find a body, there was so much blood. He could have bled to death making sure our friend was safe! He is a good son-in-law, he still visits my mother a couple of times a month to make sure she’s OK and do any odd jobs that need to be done. He hasn’t been a good father, if anything annoys him he takes it out on the kids and I’ve seen him knock them off their feet when they were toddlers. He hasn’t been a good husband either, the man who will stop on the side of the road to help any random stranger will refuse to come and help me jumpstart my car. The man that will sacrifice family time to fix someone else’s car never fixed my fuel gauge even though he told me two years ago that he’d organised for his work to fix it he just had to take it in.<\/p>\n

I find it ironic that honesty is the thing I value most and I’ve spent years lying for and about him. I also find it sad that I’ve spent so many years justifying the actions of a man who’s default reaction to anything is lie about it. For the last month I have made a definite decision that I won’t lie about him or for him so on this blog you won’t find me sugar coating our lives together. Hopefully, you won’t find me verbally bashing him either I just want to be honest. At the end of all things I want to be one of those who is being told “Well done, you good and faithful servant”.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Jesus said: “And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me”. (Mat 25:40 KJV)…
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